Hi everyone,
Over the weekend, a woman's LA gym membership was revoked after she complained because a man was in the women's locker room. Videos of her confronting the man, then announcing to the entire gym exactly what went down, and then reacting to it afterwards all went viral.
Riley Gaines posted about it, saying that if more women spoke up like that in 2020 we wouldn't be in the position we're in now, where men just wander in and out of women's spaces as though they are entirely entitled to do so. And so I thought about it. By 2020, it had been about 7 years since I'd been saying that men aren't women and should absolutely not be included in women's categories.
It had been two years since Meghan Murphy was kicked off Twitter for misgendering Jessica Yaniv, the British Columbian transgender male who tried to use Canadian Human Rights courts to force immigrant women to literally wax his balls. Kellie-Jay Keen in the UK was already screaming her bloody head off about how men aren't women. But still, none of it mattered.
It took the weight of time for more and more women to speak out, for more and more people to listen and comprehend. When the whole trans thing first reared its ugly head, and I talked to people about it—friends, family— no one believed me. Everyone thought I was exaggerating when I said that the end game of trans ideology was erasing women, removing them from their own sports, their own bathrooms, their own bodies.
Yet here we are. A black lesbian woman in LA was kicked out of the gym because she felt her privacy was violated when a strange man walked into the locker room and stared at her naked while she was changing clothes. The gym took his side. And even as she expressed her frustration to the assembled gym members in the lobby, a bunch of them acted like she was a crazy person and just averted their eyes.
No one thinks a thing is a problem until it affects them personally. The women standing around in the lobby weren't worried about a man in the locker room because that man hadn't been in the locker room when they were there. The same people who cry out and shout about empathy and compassion have no compassion for the women who face discrimination and erasure because a bunch of men say they are women.
The shocking thing isn't that the woman lost her gym membership, here in 2025, but that in 2013 no one had the imagination to see what was really coming or to care, even if they did. The shocking part is that not just individuals who claim to be the opposite sex but entire swaths of society are willing to believe outright, obvious lies and demand that the rest of us believe them too.
The shocking thing is that, even despite this, it will all still go on, for years maybe, with the butchery of young women and men, the erasure of women from their own bodies, and the removal of women from the category of "woman" itself.
Libby